Sean P. O'Reilly

A Philosopher's Cadence. a drunkard's wisdom.

Can’t Hardly Wait - The Replacements

Come Check this show out! curtisretherford is a contestant along with Matt Rubano, bradyocallahan is in the piece that I wrote. And as always YOU can be a contestant. 

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Jeffrey Lewis - Life

On Humanity, The Sun, and Purpose

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The only purpose I can ascribe to humanity that seems like something more than a self perpetuating anthill is the exploration space in its entirety. Either we are the only truly intelligent life in the universe and therefore are tasked with the tedious but enviable duty to catalog the universe, to…

A thought I had that I liked.

I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest.

Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

#613: How do I reach out to my friends who have depression? | Captain Awkward

P.S. A lot of people with depression and other mental illnesses have trouble making decisions or choosing from a bunch of different options. “Wanna get dinner at that pizza place on Tuesday night?” is a LOT easier to answer than “So wanna hang out sometime? What do you want to do?”

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thomasmwilson:

I don’t drink much anymore. 

Trying to improve more and keep moving forward.

thomasmwilson:

I don’t drink much anymore.

Trying to improve more and keep moving forward.

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On this day in 1977, Voyager 1 was launched into space carrying a “Golden Record” with the sounds of planet Earth. In 2012, it reached interstellar space. Timothy Ferris, the writer of the Hayden Planetarium Space Show Dark Universe script, produced the “Golden Record” and talks about it in this video.